Pain and Light – Remembering a Friend

As many of you know, my friend and colleague was recently killed in a tragic accident. This has been a difficult two weeks – raw pain and grief alternating with the desire to fully embrace the beauty and joy that life has to offer.

My friend was a big teddy-bear kind of guy, and he was known as a joker and a prankster. In just a few minutes, he could coax a smile out of anyone. He had a huge heart, and all who came into contact with him felt his warmth and love. He truly embraced and appreciated life. And he was one of those rare people who would actuality state how rich his life was – he would say that often, and with a big smile on his face.

I miss my friend terribly. That pain will continue. But with the pain comes the memory of his smile and his light. And the pain is a reminder to us all – take time every day to feel the joy of being alive.


16 thoughts on “Pain and Light – Remembering a Friend

  1. Please accept my deepest sympathy on the loss of your friend. This post is beautifully written and clearly shows how much he meant to you. I fully adhere to the adage that we can give up the grieving but we don’t have to give up the loving. May your grieving end soon and your love for him never end.

  2. His love and light continues to live through those who were touched by him. You may miss him always but his memory will be your constant companion. And I’m here in moments when you don’t want to walk this path alone… With love, Lori

  3. Deanna,
    I’m so sorry for this tragic and sudden loss. I can feel some of that warmth and light your friend had via your words. Your memories of him will remain treasures for your heart. Thanks for sharing a little about him and thanks for the reminder too.

  4. the beautiful words you have written about your dear friend is such a loving tribute to him. I am so very sorry for your loss. sudden and tragic death is so painful, and I know that sometimes it must not feel real. as you grieve, do all you are able to be good to yourself and know there are many of us who hold you close to our hearts, and to whom you can turn to if you need to talk. I hope the gratitude you feel for having known him, for sharing such close friendship, will help keep you uplifted and comfort you in the “in between” times when your heart is hurting.

    much love and light,

    Karen XOXO

  5. You and everyone who knew him are better for having had the gift of his spirit – an undying part of him forever given. Be kind to yourself as you heal from this sudden loss and embrace your emotions.

  6. I’m so sorry for your loss Deanna, his life was made richer because of you and vice versa. He will always be smiling at you and sending love your way. I’m sending you some healing energy and thinking about you.

  7. Deanna I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your very close friend. You had a special friendship and it’s so shocking to lose someone so suddenly. It is so special that he knew how rich his life was. Through all of this loss and pain, you remind us to embrace our lives and feel the joy of being alive as he did. I send you healing thoughts with love. Hugs and xoxo – Susan

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  9. Deanna,
    Your loss is felt through your words. You give your friend/colleague a great tribute with your description of how he has touched your life and those around him. I am sending a big warm hug virtually to you and am thinking of you. I can only say, keep remembering his smile and warmth and it will get you through this. He is around you and always with you when you need. Big love to you! ❤

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